“Every birthday is a gift. Every day is a gift”Aretha Franklin
Today I turned 29 years old! Shout out to all my scorpios 🙂
As I mentioned in my initial blog post, I launched this platform as a safe space to be vulnerable and inspire others through my experiences while also sharing the things I love along the way. That being said, I am sharing some of the lessons that I have learned over the years that have helped me find peace, joy, and healing despite all the trials of this world.
29 Life Lessons On My 29th Birthday
- Life can look different than you envisioned and still be beautiful.
- Worry is paying interest on trouble that is not yet due, release the anxious thoughts.
- Check in with yourself daily. Ask the question, “What do I want and need today?”
- After every storm comes a rainbow — even after the darkest storms.
- Prayer changes the one who prays.
- Start a gratitude journal. It produces joy.
- Celebrate the small wins. Change can still happen in the mundane moments.
- Do not neglect your mental health. Therapy is an invaluable tool.
- Grief is not linear. You have permission to feel at all times.
- Childhood trauma will follow you into adulthood if unaddressed. Unpack it.
- Use your PTO. You matter more than a job.
- Strive for at least 30 minutes of exercise a day.
- Drink plenty of water and take your vitamins.
- More time is not promised to anyone. Live each day intentionally.
- Growing older is a privilege and a gift, cherish it.
- Do not over-explain how you feel. Trust your feelings.
- Your decisions will not make sense to everyone and that is okay.
- Let go of relationships that have dissolved.
- Be yourself. The right people will gravitate.
- Perfectionism is a trap, embrace authenticity.
- Take yourself on dates and nurture your inner self.
- Sometimes a “no” is the best “yes”. Rejection is simply redirection.
- When something is unclear, ask, don’t ruminate. Clarity provides freedom and peace.
- Setting healthy personal boundaries is a form of self-care. Honor them.
- You are allowed to change your mind.
- Give yourself permission to slow down and pace yourself.
- Commit to lifelong learning by reading one new book a month.
- Remember, you are doing the best you can with what you have.
- God has a plan and it is good. Always.
I hope that some of these lessons will resonate with you and that you will consider adopting them into your life. The last few years have been met with immense loss, setbacks, and unforeseen challenges. Nonetheless, when I reflect on what I have learned, I know there has been purpose in the pain. I am not sure what this year will bring but I know, “The pain that you have been feeling cannot compare to the joy that is coming.” (Romans 8:18)